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Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Gay Marriage - Let's Get It Straight

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I am not very gay at the moment.

With some media outlets sprouting stats of over 70% of our population in support of equal marriage rights in Australia, I kind of feel like I'm preaching to the choir these days when I try muster discussion on the topic.

But I also feel I can't let that stop me because the moment I pause for breath someone else seems to feel obliged to fill the silence with a contrary opinion.

Can I just openly admit here since, as stated above, I'm primarily amongst friends, that what I really wanted to write there was how they 'fill the silence with rubbish' but I'm trying to be courteous and polite in the thrust and parry of ideas. But it's becoming increasingly difficult.
I stand for the position our society is one of equality where discrimination should be seen as a bad thing. For me, it's a really, really simple concept.

So why is it so hard for some people (maybe 30% of our population?) to understand that?
A recent news item has been a couple on the anti-marriage equality side of the argument saying they'd divorce if the legislation got through. To be honest, I laughed and moved on.

What I didn't realize, as I'm sure this couple didn't, was how fantastic their declaration would be for the pro side of things. Seriously, they look like teens stamping their feet and attempting to bite their noses off to spite their faces.

Ultimately, since they've said they will still stay together, it isn't possible the couple can divorce under current Australian laws. And they know this. So it's grandstanding. For me, it was a rather beautiful way to say, 'We've got nothing. We're desperate.'

But my post doesn't even have much to do with that event, except it eventually opened a discussion on my blog which I want to sort of share with you. I say sort of, because I'm not going to mention names and try embarrass the people I was messaging on my wall.

If you want to catch up on the latest gay news, and the crux of the discussion I had, here's a few posts to bring you up to speed:


It was the 'Uninvited' one which I shared on my Facebook wall and which brokered the following which I wish to refute here.

Some of the responses were well written, but it still came down to people who have something not wanting to let others have it because of the same selfishnesses and fear of change and interpretations of their God and the string of homophobic reasons which I usually encounter in these threads.

But, as I say, the spelling and grammar impressed me: although it was a bit like they'd gift wrapped a turd.

To paraphrase Tom Waits, my fingers have been drinking - so here we go.

First there was some vague sort of comparison of the issues of gay marriage and smoking.

Don't ask.

Then there was a statement made about the trouble being caused in Canada since they've legalized gay marriage.

Apparently, the civil rights of the general population are being eroded and people can't even voice an opinion contrary to gay marriage, with fines and even imprisonment now on the cards. It's a horrible crime against freedom of speech.

I remind you this is an argument for not legalizing gay marriage.

I assume the freedom they're talking about in Canada is the right to rib on gays for being gay. Or do they mean the over the top silliness of gays now expecting to be treated equally and fairly? It's truly a tragedy how the rights of everyday folk to mistreat or verbally bully gays has been eroded in Canada. I think that was the argument.

Seriously, I don't think the writer understood his own point. It's kind of like it was okay to dis on blacks prior to racial equality and now it's not.  I'm right in saying that's a good thing, yeah?

So I'm not sure about you, but I think it's a good thing if people aren't allowed to say rubbish things about gay people because they think they're beneath them and shouldn't have the same rights.

Not more rights - the same rights.

It should not be allowed that others can dis on gay members of our community and demean them and persecute them and say they aren't of equal standing in our community. I can't believe I even have to state this!

What harm will gay marriage do? It's legal in places around the world already. Where are the stats? Where is even your anecdotal evidence?

Besides that so obviously pro-gay but anti-bigots and bullies Canadian one, of course.
Once you accept that people have the right to do what they want with their own bodies, even if other people think it's icky or wrong or against their own personal religion, then everything becomes a little better in the world. Less nasty.

Speaking of which, here's a rather beautiful open response from the brother of the man who has decided to divorce his wife should gay people be allowed the same rights as him:

As to the closing point of that particular read, that we should all contact our federal members, I couldn't agree more. And here's a link to help you do exactly that at GetUp!

I want gay people to be able to love and live and marry if they choose. I want gay people to have choices and to feel valued and be on equal footing in our society. 

And it doesn't just effect them - it has a bearing on their families as well. Their grandparents, parents, siblings, kids, grand kids, in-laws, cousins, uncles and aunties. Friends. It effects our whole community.

Plus, I want young people who are gay to realize they belong in our community and are welcomed and valued. It shouldn't be a worse journey for them to find their place and feel accepted than it is for straight kids. Adolescence is hard enough.

This issue of having gay couples seen as equal and normal and part of our community is bigger than if it makes someone feel icky enough to cry foul at how it'll tear at the very fabric of the traditional meaning of the word marriage. Which is just pathetic nonsense.

After all, gay used to mean happy. Wouldn't it be super nice if it did again?



Saturday, May 2, 2015

Win some LEGO Friends sets :)

Hi everyone :) I'm giving away three packs of three LEGO Friends sets over on my Big Family Little Income site - the proper site where I post these days. If you want a chance to win click on the photo and enter. Plus you might want to catch up on all the posts you've missed. There's a lot. Cheers all. Bruce x

LINK TO LEGO COMPETITION

Sunday, February 15, 2015

BIGW competition

Hi everyone :D

As many of you have already worked out, Big Family Little Income has moved to it's own web page. I'm giving away 3 x Dymples essential packs at the moment, thanks to BIGW, so if you haven't already this might be the perfect opportunity to check out the new site. Plus you can catch up on our amusing anecdotes while you're there :)

Here's the link. Love to have you join us :D

 http://www.bigfamilylittleincome.com/he-says-she-says/

Saturday, January 24, 2015

I'm Giving Away 2 BBQs


If you want to win an awesome Australia Day pack courtesy of SunRice, simply click over to this link (http://www.bigfamilylittleincome.com/australia-day-brown-rice-salad/) and tell us your favourite rice recipe to serve up at BBQ's in the comments section below that blog and remember to register your entry on the widget below as well so we can contact you.

Tell us your favourite rice recipe which you'll be serving up with your Australia Day BBQ.

There are two awesome packs up for grabs - each worth $500. Each pack includes a Weber Q 100 Gas Portable BBQ + $150 Barbeques Galore gift voucher to kit out your BBQ + SunRice product to cook and experiment with.
If you enjoyed this post please share, like or comment.
It really does make a difference :) Thanks.
“Raising a family on little more than laughs”

Sunday, November 9, 2014

This Week: Win a Lego Set



Hi guys

As you may have guessed, I've moved to my own website now :) Exciting times.

I'm giving away a Lego set this week, so if you'd like to enter and have a chance at winning just click over to my new site.

And while you're there, look around and check things out. There's probably a heap of posts you've missed out on. Nothings changed, of course, I'm still just as useless and my kids are still just as awesomely challenging lol

Cheers :) Here's the link LINK

Bruce

Friday, April 18, 2014

Tell Me Sweet Little Lies



“I need a hug,” said my wife, throwing her arms wide and drawing me in. She was looking sad but in a fake way.
“What’s up?” I asked her.
It turns out Miss7 had been running roughshod over her emotions today.
“I love you, Mummy,” Miss7 had exclaimed this afternoon, throwing her arms around Tracey and giving a squeeze.
It was one of those moments which comes out of nowhere just when you need it most and makes you realize nothing else matters – not the dishes, not the floors, not the folding pile. Especially not the folding pile.
“I love you, too,” said Tracey, returning the cuddle and throwing in a kiss for good measure.
“But I love you more,” said Miss7 seriously.
“I don’t think that’s possible,” said Tracey.
“I do though. I love you more,” Miss7 assured her mother, clearly wanting to play the game.
“No, I love you more.”
“No, Mummy, I love you more.”
“No, I love you more.”
“I love you more.”
You get the picture. Apparently, it went on for a bit.
Until…
“I love you more,” said Tracey. “So stop lying,” she added for variety.
“Okay,” said Miss7…
…and ran off.
Hilarious. It’s the sort of thing which usually happens to me.
“It’s okay,” I told Tracey with mock sympathy. “I still love you.”
She smiled. “I love you too.”
“But I love you more,” I joked.
“Okay,” she said…
…and walked off grinning.
:) I've moved to a new site :)
http://www.bigfamilylittleincome.com/
“Raising a family on little more than laughs.”

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Crickey! I'm Giving Away A Family Pass To Australia Zoo!!


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I loved our day at Australia Zoo. Well, most of it. There was this one thing which happened which scared the absolute bejesus out of me.
Until going to Australia Zoo the only snake handling experience I’ve ever had was with Allens Killer Pythons. I don’t even like to handle worms and suddenly I was being handed a body double for Nagini, Lord Voldemort’s scaly pet.
“I’m a little bitohmygodIdon’tknowaboutthisdoesitbite?” I said bravely while my voice hit some new high notes.
“Only if it senses fear,” the handler said, wrapping it around my shoulders. “Smile for the camera.”
And now you can have fun like that too :) I'm giving away a Family 5 Pass to Australia Zoo. Good Luck!!!

Also, here's the full post - it's a great read. Naturally ;)
Australia Zoo - Review & Giveaway


When not over here, Bruce hangs out at his Big Family Little Income Facebook Page.
”Raising a family on little more than laughs.”

Saturday, December 14, 2013

BIG4 HOLIDAY PARK – REVIEW AND GIVEAWAY


This giveaway ends Sunday night - get your entry in now to be in the draw to win two nights cabin accommodation at any of the 180 odd BIG4 Holiday Parks throughout Australia - valued at up to $400!

 ”Raising a family on little more than laughs.”

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Bruce Devereaux is one of the nicest people he knows. When not at work he enjoys reading, writing, hiding from his children and not changing nappies.

 

His career, and if we used the term any more loosely an e might fall out, has included a gardener, a personal lender, a console operator, a stop/go man (not as big a bludge as you might think but great if you’re into sunburn, abuse and varicose veins), a cleaner of banks and pubs and, for a very brief period, a door to door salesman (until the last door he knocked on was answered by a very scary woman with tremendously hairy legs).

 

Bruce Devereaux currently works as a forty-five-year-old award winning customer service officer (glass statuette available upon request) for the Bank of Queensland and as a very casual employee for Corrective Services. He likes to believe he excels at both but then he has always been prone to exaggeration.

 

His favourite colour is green, with a picture of Dame Nellie Melba on one side and General Sir John Monash on the other. His favourite flower is self-raising.

 If you see him around town, call his wife immediately - he's probably snuck out and left her alone with all the kids.


 

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